The “What To Expect Question” – One Donors Experience
[Compiled from material written by Cheri LBW] First, I should explain I am an American donor and I understand that there are some social differences between what I see and do and what you may have to do. I simply hope that my 20+ years of being a donor can help others as they start in this.
I started down the road as a donor with my close friend asking me if I would consider becoming his after his donor moved. I had been involved in a cult like situation that used blood in their magic, so the idea was not really that far from my comfort zone.
I was his blood donor for many many years, till he passed away from natural causes at far too young an age. I started donating psi to some of his friends and found it helped me regulate my own energy body.
I continued to be a donor simply because I enjoy both the fact that I am helping another and that I truly love the feeling I get during a feeding. I prefer a direct (mouth to wound) feeding method, but have used almost every method out there at some point. With my current Vampire, I will be teaching him to use a needle to draw blood, as I am not able to provide enough blood with simple cuts, and he worries I may harm myself making deeper cuts to feed him.
My personal view of what a vampire is: well after many years getting to know them, I say it is someone that requires either blood or energy from an outside source to remain healthy.
I am a firm advocate for donors to be more active in the community, and have very set opinions on those that feed without asking or those that feed without care for the health and welfare of the donor. I am also very hard on those donors that enter into this as a lark, or because they think it will be like the movies.
This was written to reply to a post made on another site, but the info is still valid. While nothing mentioned here is against the law in the state I am in, It is highly recomended that everyone know and understand the laws of their own state or country concerning this subject.
As always, keep in mind that blood is a dangerous thing with many risks involved with the use or consumption of it. The method I describe here has many risks and should not be undertaken without full understanding of those risks.
It is far easier to donate to someone you love, but it can also cause some serious issues in a relationship. There is a very fine line between knowing when you seriously can not donate for your health (mental or physical) and when you are using it to get back at or to get something you want from your partner. Not only do you need to know when you are ready to cross that line, but your partner also needs to trust that you will not cross it.
There is also the question of what if you split up? How will you deal with the vampire’s need for a donor even if you are not a couple anymore. It is very hard for a vampire to go from a regular feeding schedule to suddenly no feeding at all. When you commit to the responsibility of being their donor, you commit to it regardless of your relationship. Always talk ahead of time about how you will deal with such an issue. This way both know in advance what will happen if you split up.
The fear of not knowing what to expect is something I want to help clear away by this post. That is part of why I asked the questions in the first place, so I could see what someone new to this expects. I have been doing it so long, that sometimes I forget what it was like at the start.
The best way for me to answer the “what to expect” question would be to describe what a normal feeding is like for me. Now please remember that every feeding and vampire is different, but the basics are very similar for the types of feedings.
How much blood gets donated? With the cut method it is hard to truly know how much is being taken, but most of the time with cuts, it is not over 1oz. Up to a pint can be taken with a needle, but I have yet to meet a vampire that could drink that much in one feeding. The average I would guess to be about 2 oz at a time but some can drink more. (Imperial system 2 fluid ounches = +- 59.8 ml).
I start my pre-feeding diet a good month before I donate, and if I am on a regular feeding schedule with someone I stay on it most of the time. For me I avoid foods that are bad for the body in general, cut the sweets, go more natural and unprocessed foods. I increase the iron and protein in my diet with foods high in those, I up the B vites in my diet by a great deal also. Any good blood health diet is a good choice. The healthier your blood is, the easier you recover from a feeding. In the week before a feeding I drink lots of pineapple juice and water. For some reason Pineapple juice seems to make the blood taste better to all those I have fed. I also avoid strong flavored foods during that week.
The day of the donation (24 hrs ahead) I do not do any heavy workouts ( makes things taste off for some reason, and could just be my body doing that). I drink lots of water and make sure I keep my electrolytes balanced. I eat a good meal the night before and the morning of, get a good solid nights rest, and try to stay relaxed the day of. I double check my supplies as I prefer to provide the tools used ( personal choice, I just am sure they are all clean, new and the right thing this way). Replace any tools not up to standards and double check my first aid kit.
I take a warm shower or bath a short while before the donation, to warm the blood and clean the skin.
I do all these things for any blood donation, regardless of the method for getting the blood out. From this point on I will only describe my preferred method of feeding as it is the one I have the most experience in and can hopefully combine the various vamps styles in a way that still gives a good idea of what to expect.
I prefer and most often use a direct feeding method. This is where the cut is made and the vampire feeds directly from the wound. Depending on the vampire, most often this type of feeding is done in a quiet room where both can sit or lay down comfortably after or during the feeding, The site used for the cut determines the place and position used. I go ahead of the vampire to the area and set up the tools needed. I use razor blades like the ones used in regular razors. Most often double sided simply because the brand I prefer for how sharp and well made they are, only makes a double sided blade. I make sure the first aid kit is handy, with the most critical items out of it and setting ready in case they are needed. I have my antibacterial wipes out and ready and the razor cleaned and ready.
If the vampire is making the cut, the site used is most often the back of the shoulder. For this site, we sit on the floor them behind me. They clean the skin, let it dry and air a min to loose the taste of the wipe, make the small cut and drink directly from the wound. If the cut closes to soon, they may make a new cut or deepen the first one, but the endorphins tend to make you not feel that part much. After they are done feeding and before much snuggling I insist on the cut being cleaned, treated with an antibiotic cream and a band-aid on it. The razor should also be put away in a safe place till it is tossed out before any snuggles happen. We then tend to simply snuggle close for a while both enjoying the after effects of the feeding. If I am in a close relationship with the vampire we may fall asleep snuggled together this way. It could lead to sex but honestly most vampires separate blood feedings and sex very clearly.
If I am only friends with the vampire (no physical relationship) we snuggle a bit then have a light snack before either ending the night or going on to do something as friends.
Every vampire/donor situation will be different, but most tend to stick to a routine when you are a steady donor for them. Your individual rituals ( not in a religious way) will become more set as you get used to what works for you and your vampire.
A few bits of advice in general. Always wait at least an hour after a donation before driving or going home. Your vampire should stay with you for that time to insure you are not having a bad reaction to the donation. It is rare, but sometimes one can get so … full of endorphins, that your inhibitions go away. This may cause you to do something you would not do normally and can lead to dangerous situations. There is also the real possibility that you become fatigued after the donation and if you drive that way it is dangerous.
Always keep an eye on the cuts and make sure they do not become infected. If they do, get treatment right away. Infections of the blood can get nasty and life threatening, so do not let them go.
Please feel free to ask me if you want more information on other methods, or simply if you want me to make something more clear. I am not good at writing without adding my feelings and emotions into the piece, and was trying to avoid that in this one. You are welcome to ask about feelings or emotions, but I felt the piece needed to be as clear of them in the body as I could be.